That's a great question, made more complicated when you cannot choose to exclude them from your space. If the harm was/is egregious or continuously triggering, I might ask myself 'is it true that there is nothing I can do about being in my space?' (of course, without knowing details this is a question I hold lightly.) If the harm is something I have healed from, I'd ask questions around this person's level of openness or insight to receive a message from me in the service of moving beyond it. To your point of the truth 'there's always room for improvement,' sometimes the improvement is in learning to better accept when we can't hold kindness toward someone, and hold ourselves with kindness within that lived reality.
Thanks for this. I try my best to have kindness as a core philosophy, there's always room for improvement.
Do you have any thoughts on showing up with kindness with those who have caused harm to you? When we can't avoid them being in our space?
That's a great question, made more complicated when you cannot choose to exclude them from your space. If the harm was/is egregious or continuously triggering, I might ask myself 'is it true that there is nothing I can do about being in my space?' (of course, without knowing details this is a question I hold lightly.) If the harm is something I have healed from, I'd ask questions around this person's level of openness or insight to receive a message from me in the service of moving beyond it. To your point of the truth 'there's always room for improvement,' sometimes the improvement is in learning to better accept when we can't hold kindness toward someone, and hold ourselves with kindness within that lived reality.
🙏 thank you for the food for thought.